The end of 2021 and the first month of 2022 were great. I felt myself on top of the mountain. Mentally I have been in a world of abundance. I finally learned how to delegate, and fine work was coming my way non-stop. I have been enjoying the moment until… Russia decided to attack Ukraine, where most of my family reside. That was the moment when allowed myself to doubt my own mantra “everything is good” and when I started to see my work life (and not only) start to decline…
I am writing this article for all the people who are currently in a negative or fearful state of mind, where I have been for the last 5 months. I will tell you about my previous experiences of fears and the way I could turn them around and get to a winning state again (I will only use my work life as an example because its the easiest we can relate to, but it is absolutely the same in every part of your life); I will share the technics which I use when I really deep in the negative thought (like happened this year); You will find a list of incredible books, and some of them even explain this connection between mind and real life scientifically.
My past experiences with the law of attraction and how our mental state influences our reality.
I have been working as a Web Designer and WordPress developer since 2013th. And I probably would never start working like that if it wasn’t for the fear of staying empty-handed on the street. At that point, I had an interior design education behind my back and some experience building a website for fun for one of my dear friends. I was selling illustrations on photo stocks…I was making no more than a couple of dollars a month at the time. I wasn’t even thinking that somebody could pay me for something I didn’t have much experience like web design or website development, but fear of living on the street pushed me to step over my insecurities and try to find a client….and you know something, I am still working with my first client from Upwork – 9 years after.
Lesson 1: Most of the time we are losing opportunities in life because of our fear and insecurities. In my case, I couldn’t believe that I could land a job with only one website in my portfolio – the so-called imposter syndrome. And the funny thing, even now, after hundreds of websites done, sometimes I still have that same feeling.
Next time when I experienced a mind-reality connection happened 4 years ago (I have been a freelancer already for 5 years).
I started to see “the pattern” of my work (this is what I thought I had seen) – January and summer are “always” slow months in my business. It was January 2018 when I experienced my first “proof” – that month was very slow, but it was also fine because I needed rest after a previous couple of months. But as summertime was getting closer, in May 2018 I was watching my business slowing down drastically. I was in a panic. I don’t remember how I got to that thought, but I started to repeat to myself “There are always a lot of work, enough work for everyone” every time I fell into a panic.
It was impressive. After only one week of repeating it to myself, work just started flowing to me from everywhere. I was shocked. Moreover, that summer was the time when I started to look for help because there were so many requests.
This year has been showing me one more time that I can’t even allow myself a negative thought. Moreover, the thought wasn’t even conscience.
To explain myself better I will try to use a metaphor: learning a language is the same as learning how the Law of attraction/mind-reality connection works. When you start learning any language, you begin to study the alphabet, then some words and phrases (the most useful), then grammar, more words, and you need to practice as much as possible. The same with law of attraction, at my first encounter in 2018 it was like learning an alphabet, this time it was already “phrases” – next level thing in other words.
So what did I do wrong?
I can’t go into much detail but in short, I took financial responsibility for a person.
Before it happened, I was in a good position to do it. My business was flourishing and everything was going smooth.
After… at some point, I allowed myself a small thought “I hope I will continue receiving enough work” and with that … business started to slow down and even more – I lost money because one of my teammates didn’t do his job right.
This is a perfect example of how a simple doubt in your own success can destroy it.
Lesson 2: The law of attraction exists and works 100%, whether you believe it or not. Whatever it is, will it be the biggest fear or a positive belief that “there is enough work for everyone” – it will come true because this is what you are focusing on and thinking a lot about it. For the best explanation of it, I will recommend you to watch the documentary “Secret”.
What to do when you have a scarcity mentality
When you “catch” a scarcity mentality, the most important and the most difficult step is to actually recognize it, understand where is it coming from and cut out the source if it’s possible.
Next would be to write down everything you are afraid of, everything that you believe is unfixable or impossible, and then write in front of it an absolute opposite. For example in my case in 2018 I believed that its a low season and finding work was very difficult – the opposite of it is “there is always enough work for everyone”.
Then every time you catch yourself having a negative thought – switch it immediately to a positive one. This will calm down your negative mind and give you more energy going.
My favorite tools to balance me mentally
I use affirmations a lot as a first resort for most of my fears, but sometimes, when I catch my fear too late (as happened this year) I also use tools like:
- Meditations with Chopra. I was introduced to it when I was very skeptical about meditations in general, but shortly (one week in) I understood that Chopra meditations are not common. Not only it calms your mind and allows you to see the situation clearly and objectively, it actually pushes you to see the world in brighter light. Every meditation is started with a message about the laws of life/happiness/love, then he proposes you an affirmation for the day (he calls it centering thought) based on the message he just taught, and finishes with the meditation by repeating a specific mantra. Even if you are not a believer as I was, I would recommend you to look on youtube his 21-day abundance challenge, it took me one week to switch my mind 180deg and it was impressive how much my life started to change for better (yes I start to notice those shifts in 1 week of that challenge).
- Motivational books. I am including in this category books that are helping define your goals, advising/motivating you to create the right habits or telling you the story of a successful person/company. My favorites: Miracle Morning, The 12 Week Year, Living Forward, The Bezos Letters, 7 Rules to 7 Figures.
- Books that scientifically explain the law of attraction. You won’t find in them the “law of attraction” word combo, but when you read it you understand that this is what they talk about. Get into my list: Think and Grow Rich, Psycho-Cybernetics
- Practices of manifestation. This is something I am trying now. It’s heavily based on the law of attraction but instead of using only feeling and imagination you also write things up in a special way.
Manifestation technics I am currently testing
When I start to dive into this topic, I wasn’t even sure what am I looking for.
In my knowledge based on the documentary “Secret” if the person wants to manifest anything in his/her life, the person needs to start from move to a higher/positive vibration, define what he/she wants and follow it/make actions towards it, and the most important to believe that it will be achieved.
But when I started listening what others speak about it, I understood that for the times when we have too many or too strong limiting beliefs to get to that unshakable “belief” state there are technics created to help you manifest what you are pursuing.
For the moment I can separate those manifestations technics in 3 groups:
- Visualization. Require a person to create a visualization board, no matter if it’s a fiscal one or made on Pinterest, and look at it every day till it unlocks the belief that he/she can have it.
- Technics like 369 or 555. Basically, you choose the affirmation, add the gratitude (ex. I am blessed with an athletic body), and then you write it down at least 30 days 3 times in the morning, 6 at noon, and 9 before going to sleep (in case of 369 technic) or write it 55 times 5 days in a row (555).
- Write, Read, Release.(WRR) In short, you write your affirmations and follow them with a sentence about how wonderful it feels to have them, read them every day in the morning and at night for 30 days, and then forget about it till it comes true.
I decided to try 2 of them 369 and WRR. I am one week in, and still, I don’t want to tell you if it works or not because it’s too early, but I am living you a video about WRR that I am currently following. Enjoy and I hope all your wishes come true.
